Ever wonder just how accurate some of the matchmaking sites are? Is it a placebo effect or can the dating websites really align the stars for you?

Relationships are typically based on two things; compatibility and attraction, with most giving those two factors a different priority, but some might have other motives.

It sort of seems odd that answering about 100 questions can provide enough insight to suggest the right one, but I suppose its possible with the right questions, maybe?

Here’s a list of the questions from eHarmony found online;

1. Besides love, what one trait have you noticed in couples that have maintained a successful relationship for many years?

2. Looking back on your life, of what are you most proud?

3. Describe some personal habits that are important to you.

4. Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could share with you.

5. What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come true?

6. In general, how many nights a week do you go out for entertainment? What sorts of things do you like to do when you go out on the town?

7. If you had three wishes, what would they be?

8. During a typical week, what sort of physical activities do you enjoy?

9. What is the most adventuresome thing you’ve done in the past year?

10. How big is your extended family? What are the holidays like for you and your family?

11. What is the most spontaneous thing you have ever done?

12. How important is it to you that your partner fulfill traditional gender roles? Would you like a woman who will cook, shop and keep house? Would you like a man who maintains the cars, manages the finances, and is handy around the house?

13. What do you most like to do on a day off?

14. What is one thing you could start doing today that would most improve the quality of your life?

15. When do you feel most afraid?

16. If you could accomplish only one thing during the rest of your life, what would it be?

17. They say life is about simple pleasures, what is your simplest pleasure, and how does it make you feel?

18. What do you find physically attractive?

19. Describe your own personal style.

20. Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?

21. How would you spend a romantic evening with someone you have been dating for more than one year?

22. Looking back at your life, describe one particular event that you wish you had handled differently.

23. What do you think are the three best traits you have to offer a partner?

24. Does life look good to you right now? Describe your current emotional health.

25. Tell me about your closest friend. How long have you known him/her; and what do you like best about him/her?

26. Describe your spirituality.

27. What are your general feelings about money and personal wealth?

28. Describe your parents’ relationship with each other.

29. How would you describe your childhood relationship with your mother and/or father?

30. What are you looking for in a relationship partner?

31. What are your political beliefs?

32. Do you have any pets? Which types of animals do you love to be around?

33. Why did you join eHarmony?

34. Are you doing what you love? If not, what would you rather be doing?

35. Describe your ideal man/woman.

36. How do you act when you’re angry?

37. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

38. What have you learned from past relationships?

39. What is the best thing an ex could say about you?

40. If you could do something totally out of character and remain anonymous what would you do?

41. If they were making a movie about your life, what would it be called and which actor would play you?

42. Describe the worst date you’ve ever been on.

Expert opinions on love and compatibility, and the interaction between biology and behavior. 

by Hara Estroff Marano and Carlin Flora

We talked to a variety of experts who could be expected to provide insight into these key qualities. From family researchers to matchmakers, each has watched countless couples draw together and pull apart. And each suggested the same thing: We’re looking at love all wrong.

Compatibility does not hinge on some personal inventory of traits. Compatibility isn’t something you have. It’s something you make. It’s a process, one that you negotiate as you go along. Again and again. It’s a disposition, an attitude, a willingness to work.

And while we’re redefining compatibility, let’s banish its more combustible cousin, “chemistry,” that black box of a term too often invoked to denote the magic ingredient of a good relationship. Chemistry is an alluring concept, but much too frequently people use it to absolve themselves of the need to consciously examine their approach to one another. As if the muse of love will alight on their shoulder and sprinkle fairy dust on them, and then they will suddenly open their eyes and behold The Perfect Mate—without prying open their own heart, embracing an unwavering willingness to see the other in a positive light or doing the hard work of exploring, knowing and respecting another human being.

Love operates on many levels. It involves a dauntingly complex interplay of biology and behavior. But it operates best when we add a certain spirit, when we consciously shape our relationships through an attitude of goodwill. Here, experts weigh in:

See a very interesting and scientific article on chemistry and attribute matching for date selection by Hara Estroff Marano and Carlin Flora in Psychology Today.